I’ve been wanting to have a conversation around attachment theory and the various attachment styles on the podcast for a long time, and I knew as soon as I started reading Polysecure that I needed to have Jessica on to break it all down.
Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Non Monogamy. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com.
Things we talk about in todays episode:
Her work as a psychotherapist and what led her to focusing on attachment styles and polyamory
The four different types of attachment
Her perspective around identifying with our attachment styles versus the way to approach the path to building secure attachments
Ethical non monogamy and polyamory
How we develop our individual attachment styles
How to develop secure attachments in ethically non monogamous relationships
The difference between a secure base and a safe haven
The HEARTS action steps, stepping off the relationship escalator, evolution & growth and beyond
LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:
School of Fears, Feels & Fucks
Buy Jessica’s book: Polysecure
Stepping Off The Relationship Escalator
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