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Episode #123: I Spent Years Hiding | A Solo Episode

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In todays solo episode, Amanda candidly shares about her pattern of hiding — something she’s been actively working on in therapy for the past few years.

She deep dives into the ways in which she’s hidden in her life — via her years of eating disorder cycles, hiding her goofy self because of her years of being bullied all the way to hiding her sexuality and propensity to polyamory.

Wanna know how to fully embody your fuck yes self? Breaking the pattern of hiding is a crucial step. So let’s deep dive into this emotionally raw episode and bring the tissues — you may need them. She certainly did.

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Episode #122: Breaking Down Attachment Styles with Jessica Fern

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I’ve been wanting to have a conversation around attachment theory and the various attachment styles on the podcast for a long time, and I knew as soon as I started reading Polysecure that I needed to have Jessica on to break it all down.

Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Non Monogamy. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com.

Things we talk about in todays episode:

  • Her work as a psychotherapist and what led her to focusing on attachment styles and polyamory

  • The four different types of attachment

  • Her perspective around identifying with our attachment styles versus the way to approach the path to building secure attachments

  • Ethical non monogamy and polyamory

  • How we develop our individual attachment styles

  • How to develop secure attachments in ethically non monogamous relationships

  • The difference between a secure base and a safe haven

  • The HEARTS action steps, stepping off the relationship escalator, evolution & growth and beyond

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

School of Fears, Feels & Fucks

Video version of the podcast

Buy Jessica’s book: Polysecure

Jessica’s website

Stepping Off The Relationship Escalator

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new coaching clients for 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists

Episode #120: Let's Talk Polyamory | A Conversation Around Fear of Replacement with My Husband

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In todays episode of our “Let’s Talk Polyamory” series of the podcast, we deep dive into all things fear of abandonment and replacement. Todays topic really hits close to home for both of us, in very different ways. And it seems to hit close to home to many of you as well — next to jealousy, this has been our most requested conversation!

Tune in to todays episode to hear all about:

  • how we’ve navigated these fears pre polyamory

  • specifics around how we’ve struggled with these fears in wildly unique ways

  • how attachment theory plays into this

  • where this fear really stems from

  • Amanda gets vulnerable AF about some of her experiences that have led to her feeling more of these feelings in the last year

  • why we attract people into our lives that amplify our fears

  • tools that have supported us while navigating fear of being replaced or abandoned and beyond

Episode #85: How Reality TV Gives Us A Skewed AF Way Of Seeing The World with Taylor Nolan

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I’m so excited to share this amazeballs conversation with you on the podcast today with the one and only Taylor Nolan. You may recognize her from as one of Bachelor nation’s most talked about contestants (and one of my personal favorites to ever come from the franchise). If you aren’t familiar with her work and life outside of that space, get READY because she walks the walk on real talk, authenticity and candor.

Taylor is a psychotherapist and host of Let's Talk About It podcast, creating space for meaningful conversations around taboo topics like mental and sexual health. 

And today, we deep dive into all things reality tv and the impact that shows like the Bachelor and Love is Blind (#spoileralert — watch the show!) have on our society and cultural norms as a whole.

Things we discuss in today’s episode:

  • Her thoughts and feelings on reality tv now that she’s two years out of her Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise experience

  • The lack of representation in reality tv

  • Why we both love Love Is Blind and our deep thoughts around allllll the shiz there with Carlton, Cameron and Lauren and Gigi and Damien’s relationship

  • Sexuality, purity/innocence complex, toxic monogamy

  • How The Bachelor is basically polyamory

  • Non monogamy, non traditional relationships, our favorite vibrators and beyond!

Episode #84: A Conversation Around Body Shame & Why We Hate Our Bodies with Jessica Demasi

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In honor of #NEDAweek having just passed, I’m so excited to be exploring all things body shame on todays podcast.

I couldn’t have had a better person to have this podcast than Jessica Demasi — a fan favorite over here at the Live Your F*ck Yes life podcast. Not only does she bring a super important research based and clinical approach to the subject matter as a Certified Eating Psychology Coach who specializes in Functional Endocrinology and as a fellow advocate to say FU to diet culture dogma, but she also shares so vulnerably about her personal relationship with the topic at hand.

This is a conversation every single womxn needs in their life. So share with your friends and let’s deep dive.

Things we discuss in today’s episode:

  • Our personal stories around body shame and eating disorders

  • Why Jess broke up with her husband early on in their dating relationship

  • Where the root of our pain and shame really lies

  • The negative patterns we create in our lives and how the f*ck to get out of them

  • Our obsession with therapy and doing the inner work

  • Buffering and how we so often do that with food and exercise

  • Her amazeballs analogy of surfing

  • The power of AND

  • The magic of the mess and how to embrace the shiz out of it

  • Tools to implement into your life to start the radical process of loving yourself

Episode #83: Is Change Really So Bad? My Awakening In The Last Six Months | A Solo Episode

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For so long, I viewed change as a bad thing. Something to fear. Steer clear from.

Have you felt that way too?

It can be so terrifying to rise up into our full potential and make shifts in our life, even when we know we need to. And so often, we let that fear hold us back from taking any action and instead, we tell ourselves why we’re not good enough and self sabotage from moving in that direction.

I have been doing so much transformative work on myself the last six months — work I NEVER imagined possible and have had A F*CK TON of realizations, aha moments and a full and complete coming home to myself in a way I never imagined possible.

I had planned something completely different for today’s episode, but this has been so on my heart and I am finally ready to share with all of you my complete and utter awakening that has taken place the last few months. And I’ll be honest — I’m really scared to share this piece of my heart. It’s probably the most vulnerable I have ever been on the podcast. But that’s what living your f*ck yes life is to me.

More in this week’s episode my loves. Grab a cup of coffee or tea and come join me for this one.

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Episode #81: Twenty Nine Lessons I Learned in This Past Year | A Solo Birthday Edition Episode

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Happy start to season 4 of the podcast!!

Before I deep dove into all the juicy content coming your way this season (AND BREAKING OPEN SOME TOPICS THAT WE HAVE NEVER COVERED ON THE POD), I wanted to share my heart with all of you and go back to my annual birthday tradition of sharing all of the lessons I’ve learned in the past year! 2019 was a BIG one my friends.

Spoiler alert: I get super emotional on today’s episode. What’s new.

Welcome to the mess, the shifts, the joy and all the in-between!

Things I cover in today’s episode:

  • The intense awakening I’ve had in the last 3 months and what I’ve been up to since the end of season three

  • 29 lessons I learned in my 29 years on this earth

  • We cover things from relationships to identity to personal growth to health and beyond!

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAY’S EPISODE:

Teami blends — use code LYFYL for 20% at checkout!

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Episode #75: Sex Addiction, Shame and Learning To Love Yourself with Ashley Beaudin

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Ashley Beaudin is an inspirational speaker, hug-dealer and the visionary of The Imperfect Boss; a movement that is making imperfect normal and inspiring tens of thousands of creative women to grow their confidence. Ashley is passionate about seeing people show up fully as themselves and lead through their gifts, message, and presence.

Things we talk about in today’s episode:

  • TRIGGER WARNING: Ashley has a history of abuse and we discuss some of her journey with sexual trauma so if that’s a triggering thing for you, you may want to skip this week’s episode.

  • How entrepreneurship and creating the Imperfect Boss launched her into feeling seen, worthy and loved.

  • Her journey with online sex addiction as a virgin

  • Where we so often derive our self worth from and how it’s so MF backwards

  • How to embrace our imperfections

  • Also, we get weird AF as per the usual and embrace our mutual Canadian-ness. Giddy up.


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The Imperfect Boss

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#74: The F*CK it Method & My Recent Navigation of Trauma and Anxiety | A Solo Episode

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The last month and a half have burst me open with so much “stuff”. I’ve been doing some deep healing work and am coming out of the other side feeling so compelled to share because I have a feeling you will resonate deeply with what I’ve been navigating.

Holy balls here we go.

Things I share in today’s episode:

  • The aha moment I had around my own traumas and triggers through therapy

  • My personal journey lately of navigating anxiety and going through the overwhelm

  • Learning to love all parts of my self — the shadow parts, the light and beyond.

  • My personal belief around the words “good” and “bad”

  • The one tool that I use and teach that has changed the MF game for navigating tough shit

WORK WITH AMANDA:

Join the Live Your F*ck Yes Life Membership — use code LYFYL for 10% off!

Book a consult for 1:1 work in emotional/binge eating and mindset

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Episode #51: Breaking the Stigma of Therapy with Rachel Wright

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When you hear the word therapy, does it bring up positive or negative emotions for you?

Therapy used to be something I didn’t think I needed and gave a it a major bad rap. But my perspective on the matter has changed drastically in the last few months as I’ve explored my own experience of working with a therapist. Yup, I am a major therapy convert. And I’m talking about my own experience in therapy for the first time on todays episode.

So to talk about all the things and give you the most candid conversation about a topic so polarizing, I brought back on to the podcast one of my favorite humans on the planet, therapist and sex, relationships and mental health expert Rachel Wright.

Things we discuss in today’s episode:

  • Why Rachel wanted to be a therapist

  • How therapy and theatre are so linked

  • Her first experience of therapy as a fourteen year old (and the juicy deets on why her parents shoved her into therapy in the first place)

  • The good, the bad & the ugly of the therapy model

  • Where to even start on finding the right therapist for you

  • Why I finally took the deep dive and started going to therapy

  • Self care starts with mental health

  • How to know if you need therapy

  • A huge aha moment I had in therapy a few weeks ago

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAY’S EPISODE

Rachel’s Instagram | Website

Episode 37 with Rachel on Anxiety

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