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Episode #160: How I'm Really Doing | A Divorce Update

One of the most common things I get asked by you all is how I’m really doing post / during my divorce, and I get it. I haven’t really talked about how I’m doing in a direct way regarding this particular piece of my story and while that’s been intentional — I realized that not doing so was also a disservice to all of you and to this process.

If there’s anything I’ve realized through this experience, it’s that there are not a lot of blueprints out there on how to navigate the process of a divorce. What you might expect. Shit you might face.

I thought I could have predicted what the last year and half would look like. And I was wrong. It’s been a rollercoaster. One that I’m finally sharing more about on todays episode.

If you are going through a divorce or a de-escalation, please give yourself some grace. This shit is hard. Complicated. Messy. And if you know someone going through either, reach out to them and tell them you’re there.

PS: my neighbors downstairs were having what sounded like a rave during the only time I had to record this so, enjoy the weird ambient music LOL

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Episode #121: Let's Talk Polyamory | A Conversation Around the Joys of Poly With My Husband

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In todays episode of our “Let’s Talk Polyamory” series of the podcast, we close out this mini series by talking about all of the benefits that polyamory has brought to our lives. Polyamory can bring up a lot of challenging things to the surface, but the rewards are amazing.

So today, for our final episode of this polyamory series, we deep dive into the gifts that polyamory has given us, individually and as a couple. Feeling heaps of gratitude and I hope you all love this episode as much as I loved recording it and reflecting on the last two and a half years of my life.

Episode #119: Let's Talk Polyamory | A Conversation Around Perception With My Husband

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In todays episode of our “Let’s Talk Polyamory” series of the podcast, we deep dive into all things perception. I get asked about this all of the time and I get it — I was wildly concerned about how I would be perceived / the reactions my friends and family would have before coming out as polyamorous. Not to mention how it would impact my online presence and beyond.

So we deep dive into all of that.

Tune in to todays episode to hear all about:

  • how we both felt about how we would be perceived before we came out as poly

  • the reactions of our friends and family

  • the mis-perceptions around ethical non monogamy & polyamory

  • how our own perceptions and biases around the things we are pulled towards can produce massive feelings of fear and shame

  • the root of why fear of perception has impacted us individually and beyond

Episode #118: Let's Talk Polyamory | A Conversation Around Jealousy With My Husband

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Ever since coming out as polyamorous, I’ve gotten SO many DMs and messages with really incredible questions from all of you. So I decided to do a special polyamory series of the podcast, and bring on my husband Kevan every week to talk about the biggest questions, fears & beyond that we receive to speak to these topics in a deeper way.

The number one question I get? How do you navigate jealousy?

So today, we break down our personal experiences around jealousy, what’s worked for us and the biggest tools that have supported us in navigating jealousy when moving from a monogamous framework to a polyamorous one.

This episode is a deep one (and one for you no matter how you choose to do relationships ‘cause we all experience jealousy to a certain degree, eh?)

So buckle up and let’s f*cking go!

Episode #101: I'm Coming Out...Again | A Solo Episode

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Happy start to season 5 of the podcast!!

It’s fucking hard to believe we’re already 5 seasons in — can you believe it?

And we are kicking things off with a deep dive into an area of my personal self and my identity that I have yet to share publicly. It is something that has felt a long time coming and I’m so excited and ready to share about this part of myself.

So yeah, I’m coming out. Again. Big time.

As always, on this podcast, we tackle taboo subjects that aren’t spoken to very often. And we’re going in that space this season, DEEP. And I ask that you come in, as always, with an open heart and mind. Create space in yourself to learn and be curious. This is how we grow beyond our wildest dreams, my loves. Let’s do the damn thing.

Things I cover in today’s episode:

  • How the podcast is evolving as we head into this new season

  • My fear in sharing this aspect of myself with you all

  • What it means to live as my fullest unapologetic, fuck yes self

  • Navigating rejection for being who you are (by others and by your own self!)

  • Ownership and toxic programming in relationships

  • Ethical non monogamy, polyamory, self discovery and beyond!

Episode #85: How Reality TV Gives Us A Skewed AF Way Of Seeing The World with Taylor Nolan

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I’m so excited to share this amazeballs conversation with you on the podcast today with the one and only Taylor Nolan. You may recognize her from as one of Bachelor nation’s most talked about contestants (and one of my personal favorites to ever come from the franchise). If you aren’t familiar with her work and life outside of that space, get READY because she walks the walk on real talk, authenticity and candor.

Taylor is a psychotherapist and host of Let's Talk About It podcast, creating space for meaningful conversations around taboo topics like mental and sexual health. 

And today, we deep dive into all things reality tv and the impact that shows like the Bachelor and Love is Blind (#spoileralert — watch the show!) have on our society and cultural norms as a whole.

Things we discuss in today’s episode:

  • Her thoughts and feelings on reality tv now that she’s two years out of her Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise experience

  • The lack of representation in reality tv

  • Why we both love Love Is Blind and our deep thoughts around allllll the shiz there with Carlton, Cameron and Lauren and Gigi and Damien’s relationship

  • Sexuality, purity/innocence complex, toxic monogamy

  • How The Bachelor is basically polyamory

  • Non monogamy, non traditional relationships, our favorite vibrators and beyond!

Episode #83: Is Change Really So Bad? My Awakening In The Last Six Months | A Solo Episode

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For so long, I viewed change as a bad thing. Something to fear. Steer clear from.

Have you felt that way too?

It can be so terrifying to rise up into our full potential and make shifts in our life, even when we know we need to. And so often, we let that fear hold us back from taking any action and instead, we tell ourselves why we’re not good enough and self sabotage from moving in that direction.

I have been doing so much transformative work on myself the last six months — work I NEVER imagined possible and have had A F*CK TON of realizations, aha moments and a full and complete coming home to myself in a way I never imagined possible.

I had planned something completely different for today’s episode, but this has been so on my heart and I am finally ready to share with all of you my complete and utter awakening that has taken place the last few months. And I’ll be honest — I’m really scared to share this piece of my heart. It’s probably the most vulnerable I have ever been on the podcast. But that’s what living your f*ck yes life is to me.

More in this week’s episode my loves. Grab a cup of coffee or tea and come join me for this one.

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Episode #81: Twenty Nine Lessons I Learned in This Past Year | A Solo Birthday Edition Episode

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Happy start to season 4 of the podcast!!

Before I deep dove into all the juicy content coming your way this season (AND BREAKING OPEN SOME TOPICS THAT WE HAVE NEVER COVERED ON THE POD), I wanted to share my heart with all of you and go back to my annual birthday tradition of sharing all of the lessons I’ve learned in the past year! 2019 was a BIG one my friends.

Spoiler alert: I get super emotional on today’s episode. What’s new.

Welcome to the mess, the shifts, the joy and all the in-between!

Things I cover in today’s episode:

  • The intense awakening I’ve had in the last 3 months and what I’ve been up to since the end of season three

  • 29 lessons I learned in my 29 years on this earth

  • We cover things from relationships to identity to personal growth to health and beyond!

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Episode #62: What It Takes To Make A Relationship Work with my husband

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Do relationships take work or should they be seamless? There’s a shit ton of debate about this and today, I’ve brought on a super special guest to dig into the age old question — my husband!

We are certainly not experts when it comes to relationships — you can listen to a bunch of previous podcast episodes around relationships, sex and beyond — but I do think that almost 10 years of going through the shit with a human entitles us to have some shit to say that’s worth sharing. And hell, we are DEFINITELY experts on our relationship.

And today on the podcast, we deep dive into some pretty dense topics around relationship longevity, health and beyond and I am THE MOST excited to share this conversation with you all.

Things we discuss on todays episode:

  • The real story of how we met

  • The crazy story of how and why we got legally married (our first wedding!)

  • Our differing perspectives on marriage

  • The concept of possession in intimate relationships

  • How to keep a relationship thriving

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Episode #48: Using The Enneagram as a Tool For Self Awareness with Sarajane Case

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To kick off a new month, we’re deep diving into everything get to know yo’ self because, let’s be honest, through all the mess that life brings, we can move further and further away from who we truly are, deep down.

One of the ways I love deep diving into getting to know myself in a deeper meaning is through personality tests and when I really took a deep dive into the Enneagram this past fall, I knew I needed to bring on an Enneagram expert to dish all the goods. And that’s why I’m SO excited to introduce Sarajane Case to the podcast today!

Sarajane Case is a writer, coach and speaker based in Asheville, NC. She's the creator of the Brave Collective - a membership community for people who want to create the life of their dreams from right where they are! She's the founder of Enneagram & Coffee and host of both Brave Radio & The Enneagram & Coffee Podcast!

Here are some things we discuss in today’s episode:

  • What the enneagram is and how Sarajane got into it

  • What makes the enneagram different from other personality tests

  • Embracing your shadow side

  • Using the enneagram as a tool for self awareness, deeper understanding of your partner and even bringing it into your work

  • An overview of the 9 types

  • How to use this tool as a way to grow and love ourselves more

  • How different types work together

  • Answering listener questions from our facebook community

  • Using the enneagram in business

  • How our types impact how we show up in the world and how we are perceived

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Episode #9: How to communicate effectively with your partner & rekindle the spark in your relationship with Rachel and Kyle Wright

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EPISODE SNEAK PEEK

"A lot of the times we have stories going on in our heads about sex or pleasure in our heads that we don't even know are there. And they're from the media or our familIes or 'Mom told me that if you do x y and z you're a slut' so I can't do those things, and you have no idea that that's playing in the background the whole time and that's why you're not orgasm-ing in bed."

What would it look like to revolutionize how we share, teach, and talk about sex, relationships, and mental health? That’s exactly what Rachel + Kyle Wright have set out to do. Wright Wellness Center is bridging the gap between a self-help book and a therapist’s couch — bringing psycho-education to life and equipping people with the tools they need (and that our society doesn't teach us!) to have fulfilling and healthy relationships and lives. 

Here are a few things we discussed in today’s episode:

  • The story of how Rachel & Kyle met
  • The effect building a business together has had on their marriage
  • Where my love of post it notes started
  • How to move out of the "roommate trap" in your relationship, and why you're in it in the first place
  • Communication tools to open the door to a happy and healthy relationship
  • How to actually understand the emotions you and your partner are experiencing
  • How to get back to being intimate when you've lost the spark in your relationship
  • Love languages as a tool for understanding how you show love and receive love
  • Why putting yourself first is CRUCIAL for your relationship

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Ladies & Libidos masterclass

Love Languages test

Meyers briggs test

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