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Episode #158: Cultivating Queer Community with Rainn Thomas

This is my fifth pride out as a queer person, and I would be lying if I said that I haven’t felt at a loss on how to being to find queer community. Part of queer-ness isn’t just going from thinking you’re straight to knowing you’re queer and then voila, you’ve got the queer life of your dreams. It’s a whirlwind of unpacking comp het, going through queer puberty (I used to scoff at the idea of this but it’s a thing), and finding where you feel the most at home and yourself in your queerness.

Not to mention getting your brain unf*cked from the patriarchy.

These are conversations I have in my own circles, often, and I’m so grateful to have someone like Rainn in my own life to learn from and converse with. And I’m even more stoked that they agreed to come on the pod for us to have one of these conversations with all of you.

If you aren’t familiar with Rainn (She/They), she is a Black lesbian artist and writer living in Chicago. She’s the Host and Co-Organizer of Fruit Salad, a monthly queer open mic. Her writing has appeared in several online publications, and her second poetry chapbook, “In our hands, citrus” will be released later this year. Her artwork has appeared at Co-Prosperity Sphere, The Whistler, The Robin in the Martin, and The Franklin.

Things we talk about in todays episode:

  • how the fuck to make queer friends

  • their queer timeline and how she’s navigated all things non monogamy, internalized homophobia and de-escalations in their relationships

  • why lesbianism means so much to her

  • how to know where you belong

  • local artist & queer community, and the way she’s personally contributing to it with Fruit Salad

  • all things chosen family, sapphic love, power dynamics in relationships and beyond

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ADDITIONAL RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Rainn’s Instagram

Fruit Salad | Dorothy Downstairs | The Martin

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Episode #151: Let's Talk Relationship Anarchy | A Conversation With Abby Rosmarin

You’ve asked for an entire episode on all things relationship anarchy and I’m so stoked to be kicking off the conversation and deep dive into all things relationship anarchy with the one person that’s made me feel the most seen by sharing their lived experience as a demisexual relationship anarchist who has been in polyamorous and monogamous dynamics alike : Abby Rosmarin aka my mutual and friend on Tik Tok (and in real life) @notjennifergarner

Abby (she/they) is a writer, content creator, mental health professional, trauma-informed yoga instructor, and former commercial model. She is the author of 7 books, including the Amazon Bestseller The Ballerina's Guide to Boxing. She is also known as NotJenniferGarner on TikTok, where she has amassed nearly half a million followers. Abby is also getting her Master's in Clinical Mental Health Counseling.

This conversation felt like a warm hug to my heart, and I know it will feel that way for you too. So cozy up with us and let’s fucking go baby!

Things highlighted in todays episode:

  • what relationship anarchy is / means to both Abby and Amanda

  • relationship anarchy being occasionally equated to abuse

  • autonomy being falsely equated with lack of accountability

  • nuance is everything

  • ways to tangibly live out relationship anarchist values

  • platonic partners, hierarchy, comp het and comp monogamy, intention and beyond

CONNECT WITH ABBY:

Abby’s Instagram | Tik Tok | Patreon

Buy Abby’s Books

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Relationship Anarchy Manifesto

Relationship libertarian

Episode 145 : Abuse in Non Monogamy

Crony Capitalism

Amanda’s Fuck Yes Relationship Manifesto

Multiamory

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Patreon - join her “close friends” list on Instagram at the $5+ level

Fucking Queer Merch

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

Amanda’s Instagram | Website | Tik Tok

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Episode #90: What I've Learned About Myself A Month Into Quarantine | A Solo Episode

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How can we use this time to develop a deeper connection to self? Listen to todays episode. I’ve got you.

In this episode, I share about what I’ve learned about myself in a month of quarantine. It’s been a wild and bumpy ride, for all of us. And I’ve had SO many things on my heart that I’ve wanted to share with all of you so this episode was a MUST.

I hope that in sharing my heart, you can hear your heartbeat through these words too and know you’re not alone.

LINKS MENTIONED IN EPISODE:

Grab your copy of I Chopped Off My Tits

Amanda’s Instagram

Untamed by Glennon Doyle


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Episode #53: The Power of Passive Income Through the Authentic Use of Network Marketing | A Conversation with Mallory Eden

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Network Marketing. MLMs.

Chances are you have a pretty strong reaction to both of those terms — either positively or negatively.

You’ve been added to a facebook group without your permission. Your ex boyfriend high school’s sister who you haven’t spoken to in 15 years started a business and reached out inviting you out of the blue. #notcool am I right?

Network marketing gets a bad rap but let me tell ya, it can (and should) be the most life changing things you will ever do for yourself if you are aligned with a mentor you love and partner with a company who’s products you believe in.

I was the biggest skeptic. I thought I was going to be scammed. Drink the koolaid and join a cult. And to be honest, I had good reason. I’d been surrounded by people who were doing it wrong and were partnered with companies that were 110% out of alignment with what I believed. But having the courage to follow my gut, and kickstart my business education with a side hustle in the network marketing space has given me so many opportunities and gifts that I couldn’t have ever imagined possible. And almost every single successful entrepreneur I know has a stream of revenue dedicated to affiliate marketing (most of which are in the network marketing realm) soooo success leaves MF clues you guys. And I’m so excited to have Mallory Eden on — an incredible woman in the network marketing space that is showing up in this business model with true authenticity.

So who is Mallory? She is a self love + holistic health advocate, and essential oils lover. Her mission is to help guide and empower women to live healthier + happier lives…on their terms and going for their dreams while thriving from the inside out. She loves reading about a million books at a time, green smoothies, coffee, a huge bowl of popcorn with a chocolate side, painting huge canvases, twinkling diffusers, Sacred Frankincense, and cuddling with her family for a movie night by the fire. Essential oils & holistic nutrition are her deepest passions. She’s been with Young Living for almost 2 years and it's been the most amazing, best surprise of her life!! She’s been constantly learning that sometimes veering off course IS THE COURSE that was meant for us all along.

Today we deep dive into allllll things network marketing, our experiences in the space and how passive income has changed our life.

Some of the main things we touch on in today’s episode:

  • Pulling back the curtain on the truth about network marketing

  • How network marketing is really just another form (and a way more lucrative form) of affiliate marketing

  • The key to living a life by design

  • The importance of vision and being authentic to yourself

  • How to overcome the fear of being perceived as scammy

  • Using this opportunity as a chance to foster community where you truly belong


LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAY’S EPISODE

Mallory’s Instagram

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Episode #52: How Entrepreneurship Helped Me Discover my MF Purpose in Life

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“You can do any job for the rest of your life. But if you are not happy. If you are not fueled in your relationships. If you are not feeling like a health, happy and alive version of yourself, what is the f*cking point?”

This is a long time coming request for an episode that I’m SO freaking excited to share with you all. So many of you ask me how I started my business, had the courage to quit my day jobs and dive into entrepreneurship and how I make it work.

So today, I dish.

The good, the bad, the unexpected and all the in betweens.

‘Cause the entrepreneur life is a MF rollercoaster. It has opened up so many incredible doors for my life and I could not imagine living my life any other way now that I’m in it, but there were years when I thought it for sure wasn’t for me (and still days where I just wanna throw my hands up in the air and go f*ck it, I’m done).

But the honest truth of it is? This path has helped me uncover my purpose in life and today, I share my story and the jumping off pieces that you can use in your own life to figure out WTF your purpose (or multiple purposes? plural? who knows?) are on this planet.

You ready? Here we go.

Episode #47: Using Joy as a Vehicle for Change with Melanie C. Klein and Marc Cordon

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“ We need to tend to the internalized oppression. We need to tend to all of the garbage that we’ve absorbed since the time we were born. We need to tend to our inner life and we need to bring in whether it’s joy, love, connection and to feel full to do this. Otherwise, how can we be effective instruments?”

This conversation is one of my absolute favorites. As someone who is constantly looking for ways to cultivate more joy AND more social change, these two are fostering a community that fosters a space to breed just that in a FUN and INTENTIONAL way. And I can’t wait to introduce you to this badass duo who are making waves.

Melanie C. Klein, M.A., is an empowerment coach, thought leader and influencer in the areas of body confidence, authentic empowerment, and visibility. She is also a successful writer, speaker, and professor of Sociology and Women’s Studies. Her areas of interest and specialty include media literacy education, body image, and the intersectional analysis of systems of power and privilege. She is the co-editor of Yoga and Body Image: 25 Personal Stories About Beauty, Bravery + Loving Your Body (Llewellyn, 2014) with Anna Guest-Jelley, a contributor in 21st Century Yoga: Culture, Politics and Practice (Horton & Harvey, 2012), is featured in Conversations with Modern Yogis (Shroff, 2014), a featured writer in Llewellyn’s Complete Book of Mindful Living (Llewellyn, 2016), co-editor of Yoga, the Body and Embodied Social Change: An Intersectional Feminist Analysis with Dr. Beth Berila and Dr. Chelsea Jackson Roberts (Rowman and Littlefield, 2016) as well as the editor of the new anthology, Yoga Rising: 30 Empowering Stories from Yoga Renegades for Every Body. She co-founded the Yoga and Body Image Coalition in 2014. She has been practicing yoga and meditation since 1996 and currently lives in Santa Monica, CA.

Marc Cordon, MPH, is a positive psychology coach, professional speaker, and author of the book "Beyond Resilient: The Coach's Guide to Ecstatic Growth." He has received coaching accolades from the Institute for Professional and Excellence in Coaching including an Energy Leadership Index - Master Practitioner, Certified Professional Coach, and specialties in transitions, leadership, performance, and wellbeing. Before co-founding the Joy Revolution, Marc served as the Associate Directors of the Office of Health Promotion and the Office of Multicultural Programs & Services at Emory University where he developed programs and curriculum on social justice, positive psychology and community engagement. He also received a BS in Neuroscience and Behavioral Biology and a Masters in Public Health in Policy & Management. For over two decades, he has assisted countless people in self-development through speaking engagements, retreats, mini-courses, and 1-on-1 advising and mentoring.   

Things we discuss in today’s episode:

  • Shiny penny syndrome

  • The importance of practicing what we preach

  • Simple tangible ways of experiencing true joy

  • Hedonic happiness

  • What the Joy Revolution is all about

  • Using personal narrative as a form of empowerment

  • Legacy in today’s day and age being all about our own agenda and far removed from true social movement

  • Fostering a collective for joy & change

  • Self care as an act of political warfare

  • Using social media for social good

  • Positive psychology, intersectional feminism, legacy and beyond

  • And…a shit ton of poop references…’cause would you expect anything BUT that?

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAY’S EPISODE:

Melanie’s Instagram | Website | Yoga and Body Image Coalition

Marc’s Facebook | Website

Slut walk

The Joy Revolution

90 Day Fiance

Email Marc for his positive psychology book: marc@marccordon.com

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Episode #30: LYFYL Pep Talk Series | How to Live A F*ck Yes Life

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Today's episode is the last of our LYFYL Pep Talk Series, and I'm so excited to share with you my top 5 ways to live a f*ck yes life.

This is the real deal.

The 5 things that have allowed me to fully show up and live my f*ck yes life. 

No beating around the bush BS, just real talk and actionable tools that YOU can take RIGHT NOW for your own life.

Are ya ready, let's go.

Episode #23: Navigating the shame spiral and learning to love your story with Grace Presley

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"The truth allows you to crack open. Your stories allow you to break open and crack open. And that's not looking at it from the perspective of 'you're broken' but it's looking at it from a perspective of what's open can now allow you to expand."

Grace Presley is a passionate entrepreneur on a mission to help others find their voice, tell their story and change the world. Her SOUL job in this life is to love on *you* hold space for the sacred stories of your life. She created the mission with a message "You are a Story worth Loving" to build a community where your stories are supported, your voices are heard and you can simply come as you are. A gentle reminder and whisper to your soul that the stories of our lives matter and we are (and always have been) worthy of giving and receiving love. It is a movement. It is a lifestyle. 

Here are some things we discuss in todays episode:

  • Community vs. competition
  • Navigating the "not enoughness" feelings
  • Her journey with anorexia, bulimia, spousal abuse, divorce, single mom-hood and beyond
  • How we attract into our lives things that are reflective of the way we feel about ourselves
  • The moment she drew a line in the sand and finally chose herself
  • Trauma, EMDR and therapy
  • Navigating through shame and guilt
  • The story behind creating You Are A Story Worth Loving

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAY'S EPISODE

Grace's Website | Instagram | Podcast

You Are A Story Worth Loving

A Tribe Called Bliss

Brene Brown on Shame 

     

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    Episode #19: The Power of Community and finding your Breast Friends with Paige MORE

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    "I knew I didn't want to live like that for the rest of my life.  I wanted to be a warrior, not a worrier."

    Paige is a three time Emmy award winning producer who describes herself as everybody’s new breast friend. In 2017, Paige had a preventative double mastectomy after discovering she carried the BRCA 1 genetic mutation. After feeling alone during her entire decision making process, Paige decided to start sharing her story on Instagram to give other women the hope that they too could become warriors not worriers. After building a community online, Paige decided to start putting together free events for women who have been affected by cancer and The Breasties was born.

    The Breasties is a 501(c)(3) organization that puts together free events and free weekend wellness retreats for young women who have been affected by cancer. Her along with the three other cofounders of The Breasties are helping women move mountains around the world. 

    Here are some things we discuss in todays episode:

    • Her story of how she found out she had the BRCA 1 mutation and her journey since that moment.
    • The power of social media and finding your community
    • How our perspective shifts after going through something challenging in our lives
    • What you didn't know about BRCA
    • The path to making a difficult decision
    • Showing up as your authentic self

    LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE

    Paige's Instagram | Website 

    JUNE 2018 CHICAGO BREASTIE EVENT

    My first solo episode of the pod

     

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    photos by Kyle Wilson , Zeke D and Cam Frontain