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Episode #139: Expectations Really Are The Root Of All Heartache

Okay I know the title is cliche but I did that for a reason ‘cause as we get into people pleasing season around these parts and what causes so much harm to so many of us, I wanted to get into something important we’ve never explicitly talked about on the podcast: expectations.

In todays episode, Amanda dives into how expectations have caused a lot of pain in her life, and her system for identifying if expectations we have a rooted in our knowing or a false sense of self, and then how to communicate and interact with our own expectations and the expectations of others.

If you’ve ever had someone not meet your expectations or had someone be upset with you for not meeting theirs, this episode is for you.

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Episode #115: 30 Things I Would Tell My Twenty Something Year Old Self

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…and the list goes ON on todays very special episode of the podcast when I celebrate turning 30 by sharing thirty things I would tell my twenty something year old self.

I’ve been doing an episode like this since I started the podcast and it’s always my favorite way to celebrate my birthday and take stock of the lessons I’ve learned so I can share them with all of you.

Writing these out, I got really in my feels — le duh, it’s me.

My twenties were a bumpy AF ride — and everything I’ve learned have come from so much:

The moments of celebration, alignment and fierce confidence….from coming out as bi & poly and owning my unique way of loving to publishing a book to getting my preventative double mastectomy to creating a life & businesses that I love and beyond.

And, of course, the moments of shame, overwhelm & not-enoughness…from my eating disorder cycle to navigating panic attacks to having my heart broken…and so many more things that I dive into and share on todays episode of the podcast.

Sending so much love to my younger self and to all of you — we’re all simply doing our best, eh? Let’s keep showing up through all the fears, the feels and, of course, the fucks.

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

LIVE YOUR F*CK YES LIFE VIRTUAL SUMMIT TICKETS — SELF LOVE & BODY CONFIDENCE EDITION

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Episode #113: Let's Talk People Pleasing | A Solo Episode

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The “I Don’t Give A F*ck” mentality that everyone tells you you need to achieve in order to be a badass, confident goddess? It’s Bullsh*t.

For the longest time, I have self identified as a people pleaser. At first it was seen pretty exclusively through a negative lens — and in many ways, it was something I *really* struggled with. 

  • I gave so much of myself to everyone else that there was nothing left to give myself and I would walk around every day feeling so burnt out & irritated.

  • I unknowingly practiced co-dependency in many of my relationships and rarely got any of my needs or desires met — which led to heartache, resentment and beyond. 

  • And I was SO focused on what everyone else thought about me that it led me to years of eating disorder cycles, staying in toxic relationships, staying in the closet around my queerness and my polyamory and beyond.

...just to name a few.

In todays episode of the Live Your F*ck Yes Life podcast, I break down what people pleasing really is all about and how it CAN be a superpower of yours — you just have to know what tools to implement so you can fully step out of the darkness and into your unique magic.

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Live Your F*ck Yes Life Community — become a Patreon!

Backup & fun new Instagram: @liveyourfuckyeslife

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Episode 85 with Taylor Nolan from the Bachelor

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Amanda’s Instagram | Website

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1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new coaching clients for 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

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Episode #30: LYFYL Pep Talk Series | How to Live A F*ck Yes Life

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Today's episode is the last of our LYFYL Pep Talk Series, and I'm so excited to share with you my top 5 ways to live a f*ck yes life.

This is the real deal.

The 5 things that have allowed me to fully show up and live my f*ck yes life. 

No beating around the bush BS, just real talk and actionable tools that YOU can take RIGHT NOW for your own life.

Are ya ready, let's go.

Episode #16: Navigating the ups and downs of your twenties with Jessica Smith fo

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EPISODE SNEAK PEEK

"We're making decisions from a fear based mentality -- it's shifting your decisions to a place of love, which is that inner voice of wisdom, that will always guide you to the best possible situation, experience and opportunity for you."

Jessica Smith is a writer, career coach and podcast host of Expressness Radio (previously Career Coaching with Jessness) and That Valley Vibe. Her first book titled, YOUR TWENTIES, was released earlier this year and is available on Amazon. The main ingredient in her writings is how to tap into your inner wisdom, your -ness, for guidance.

She believes it’s time to explore a new path to success with inspired action, empowered self-care, and essential oils. On her podcasts, she educates people on how to uncover their natural skills and talents thru authentic expression of their personality, viewpoints, and perspective so they can do their most meaningful work. Every day she reminds us that we're not here to find out what to do, but rather, who we are.

Here are a few things I touch on in todays episode:

  • Her new book YOUR TWENTIES and what inspired her to write it
  • Her move to New Zealand for a guy and the relationship she developed with her "-ness"
  • The power and importance of setting boundaries and how to DO it
  • Things you can do to date yourself
  • Her more recent health issues and the major wake up call that changed everything
  • Her love of essential oils

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE

BUSY BABE'S GUIDE TO HEALTHY LIVING

GET HER BOOK: YOUR TWENTIES

Jess's Website / Instagram / That Valley Vibe Podcast / Expressness Radio Podcast

 

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