people pleaser

Episode #144: The Growth Is In The Unlearning, Baby

Todays episode is all about the “growth mindset” mentality vs. the process of unbecoming, unlearning and coming home to ourselves that so many of you asked Amanda for after her instagram stories last week.

As someone who lives her life outside of many of the traditional norm boxes that our society is rooted in, this has been on her heart big time, lately, and it’s clearly been on yours too. We’re surely a unique bunch and the Live Your F*ck Yes Life community wouldn’t be what it is without all of you — my fellow people pleasing, trauma navigating, queer and/or non monogamous humans (and beyond!)

So pop in your headphones, snag something yummy and cozy if it feels good to you & let’s dive in.

TW: eating disorder cycles, diet culture, trauma, panic attacks

Things she talks about in todays episode:

  • The desperation for true belonging

  • The environment of the “fit in” mentality to thrive and be enough

  • The good and the harmful pillars around the growth mindset & pop culture “hustle & grind” mentality

  • Her experience moving from Canada to the US at nineteen and how growing up in and around immigrant families has impacted her experience living in the US

  • Moving through the “starving artist” trope for the last decade as an actor & performer

  • The impact of capitalism, the patriarchy & white supremacy on her choices, paths & perspectives

  • Navigating feelings of broken-ness, fear, lack of purpose, panic & beyond


Episode #139: Expectations Really Are The Root Of All Heartache

Okay I know the title is cliche but I did that for a reason ‘cause as we get into people pleasing season around these parts and what causes so much harm to so many of us, I wanted to get into something important we’ve never explicitly talked about on the podcast: expectations.

In todays episode, Amanda dives into how expectations have caused a lot of pain in her life, and her system for identifying if expectations we have a rooted in our knowing or a false sense of self, and then how to communicate and interact with our own expectations and the expectations of others.

If you’ve ever had someone not meet your expectations or had someone be upset with you for not meeting theirs, this episode is for you.


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Episode #113: Let's Talk People Pleasing | A Solo Episode

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The “I Don’t Give A F*ck” mentality that everyone tells you you need to achieve in order to be a badass, confident goddess? It’s Bullsh*t.

For the longest time, I have self identified as a people pleaser. At first it was seen pretty exclusively through a negative lens — and in many ways, it was something I *really* struggled with. 

  • I gave so much of myself to everyone else that there was nothing left to give myself and I would walk around every day feeling so burnt out & irritated.

  • I unknowingly practiced co-dependency in many of my relationships and rarely got any of my needs or desires met — which led to heartache, resentment and beyond. 

  • And I was SO focused on what everyone else thought about me that it led me to years of eating disorder cycles, staying in toxic relationships, staying in the closet around my queerness and my polyamory and beyond.

...just to name a few.

In todays episode of the Live Your F*ck Yes Life podcast, I break down what people pleasing really is all about and how it CAN be a superpower of yours — you just have to know what tools to implement so you can fully step out of the darkness and into your unique magic.


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Live Your F*ck Yes Life Community — become a Patreon!

Backup & fun new Instagram: @liveyourfuckyeslife

Video version of the podcast

Episode 85 with Taylor Nolan from the Bachelor

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Episode #20: Stop putting everyone before yourself without being a dick with Amy E. Smith

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EPISODE SNEAK PEEK


"If I have to choose between other people approving of me or me approving of me, I choose me." 

Amy E. Smith is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love. 

With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor and has been a featured expert on Fox 5 San Diego and YourTango.com. 

Here are some things we discuss in todays episode:

  • Her two major quarter life crises and how the song Breakaway by Kelly Clarkson changed the game for her (it's a SUPER juicy story, get ready)
  •  The stress of working for someone else's dream and the path to a NEW light
  • The shit we DON'T say and how that can impact so many aspects of our life (except guess what, we say it on the pod)
  • The evolution of Amy's biz
  • How to say NO without being a dick
  • 3 ways to move away from people pleasing and perfectionism tendencies
  • How to meet animosity and disagreement in a way that will leave you getting what you actually want
  • Flipping the switch on guilt

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE

FREE TRAINING: 7 days to a more MINDFUL and CONFIDENT you

BUSY BABE'S GUIDE TO HEALTHY LIVING

Amy's Instagram 

Freebie: http://thejoyjunkie.com/free

Amy's After Hours Facebook Club

Coaches Training Institute

 

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