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Episode #161: Let's Talk Demisexuality

We’re finally doing it — an episode dedicated to all things demisexuality!

Understanding demisexuality was the lightbulb I needed in fully understanding myself and how/why my attraction has looked like the way it has. I always felt … weird. Different. And I didn’t understand why I didn’t experience that initial intense physical attraction towards someone, ever.

In todays episode, we dive into my personal flavor of demisexuality, how I’ve adapted my dating practices to align with my unique needs and all about the lightbulb switch that has everything to do with my attraction needs.

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Episode #142: You Can F*cking Choose The Way You Do Relationships, And It’s Epic

Confused AF about what kind of relationship model you actually want because all you’ve ever been taught is monogamy or bust? And even THEN, monogamy has soooo much variability from person to person around expectations, needs, what the relationship feels like/looks like, boundaries etc?

Amanda was too.

We aren’t taught this shit. We’re just thrown into the world to figure it out by the seat of our pants, so she’s popping into your earbuds today to talk about just what your options really are, so you can move through your relationships and life decisions from a place that is rooted in your unique values, desires and needs.

Things she talks about in todays episode:

  • A breakdown of the different relationship models, from Monogamy to Relationship Anarchy (all along her Fuck Yes Relationship Model scale) — go to @amandkatherineloy on Instagram for the visual to follow along

  • What model she feels most particularly aligned with

  • The importance of knowing your values

  • How to communicate with your partners so you can have aligned expectations

Episode #141: Dating Is F*cking Hard | A Conversation with Ali (Finding Mr. Height)

If there’s anything I’ve learned since opening up my marriage in 2018 and getting on the dating apps for the first time in my life, it’s that dating is HARD. And I’ve felt really lost on how to approach the dating scene. I know so many of you are in my boat, and I knew an episode on the pod around all things dating was vital, and I couldn’t think of anyone better to have one than the one and only Finding Mr. Height (aka Ali).

Ali is a positive, practical dating coach who’s built social media channels with over 200k followers and conducts one-on-one coaching as well as group seminars. Ali believes that finding love should be the same as any other major goal. We can’t expect it to fall into our laps, nor can we expect the same approach to work for everyone. Using actionable, targeted strategies, Ali will help you define what you're looking for...and then go get it. Find her on TikTok and Instagram @findingmrheight or online at www.findingmrheight.com.

Here are some things we talked about in todays episode:

  • our pasts with dating/dating apps

  • what “success” means in relationships

  • what it feels like to share about your dating life online so transparently

  • our thoughts around west elm caleb

  • dating when you’re in the “public eye” and how to maintain privacy

  • dating red flags, ridiculous dating stories, dick picks and beyond

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Ali’s Instagram & Tik Tok

Finding Mr. Height

Apps we talked about: Tinder, Ok Cupid, Match, Hinge, Feeld

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Peer support sessions

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Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

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Episode #133: Demisexual Sluts Unite | A Conversation with Jessica Levity

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Demisexual sluts unite.

Okay, all jokes aside for a minute, today on the podcast, we’re deep diving into all things demisexuality. Whether you identify as a slut or not, you’re gonna LOVE this conversation where my friend and fellow polyamorous creator & educator Jess deep dive into our personal experiences coming into our demisexuality — and so much more.

Who is Jess? Jessica Levity (she/her) is a digital media and live entertainment producer and entertainer livin' in Reno, Nevada. Pre-panny you could find her on stage in a variety of touring shows through her company Homeslice Productions. After the pandemic killed her industry, she finally launched a "back-burner" project called "Remodeled Love", whose mission is to "expand the cultural narrative on healthy relationships and polyamory". It is now her most successful (and global) project! She's a white, cis woman, who identifies as a queer, polyamorous, demisexual slut. She's also a mama, an anti-capitalist, and witchy as fuck.

If you don’t know her, get ready to fall in love with her energy, her real-ness and the hilarity that ensues in this conversation.

Things we talk about in todays episode:

  • Woo practices & outlining the most important pieces of our dating profiles

  • The definition of demisexuality

  • What being demisexual has meant for us

  • Our group chat of polyamorous creators

  • How things plays into our individual journeys with kink

  • How we both feel about being demisexual and how it impacts our polyamorous journeys

  • Power, expectations, flirting, body dysmorphia and beyond

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Jess’s Instagram | Website

Remodeled podcast

Jessamyn Stanley

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Peer support sessions

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

Become a Patreon of the podcast

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Episode #126: WTF To Do When You're Heartbroken AF

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On todays solo episode of the podcast, Amanda deep dives into her journey through heartbreak and grief over the last year of her life.

Grief is a beast. And the last year has been a year where collectively and individually, we’ve been grieving in a deeper way than ever before. Friendships have shifted. Longterm partnerships have ended. And dating? Don’t even get her started on it.

Check out todays episode for a deep behind the scenes dive into the struggles with heartbreak and grief that Amanda has faced recently and the major takeaways they have given her. If you’ve navigated heartbreak and the end of relationships in your life, this episode is for you, love.

LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:

Live Your F*ck Yes Life Community — become a Patron!

Sign up for a 1:1 peer support session

Let’s Talk Polyamory community zoom call

Youtube version of this episode

WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:

Amanda’s Instagram | Website

Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My Tits

1:1 coaching with Amanda — I am accepting 1-2 new coaching clients for 2021. Apply here to set up an initial call to see if this work together is a good fit.

Join her email list & get access to her fears & feels embodiment playlists

Episode #24: YOUR OWNER'S MANUAL TO DATING IN 2018 WITH Kira Sabin

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EPISODE SNEAK PEEK

"Love lies in the vulnerability. You can't love perfect. So if we're all trying to be perfect for that person all the time, they actually can't love you. So you're full on f*cking sabotaging it."

Kira Sabin has been coaching single women from San Diego to Singapore since 2007. She is a positive psychology practitioner through The Flourishing Center and a professionally certified coach through the International Coach Academy…however, she has taken her work much further than that. UNDERSTANDING HOW LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS WORK FROM A PSYCHOLOGICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SCIENTIFIC POINT OF VIEW HAS BEEN BECOME HER PASSION. Creating a way to take everything she has learned and apply that individually to her clients so that they can CREATE real and healthy relationships that last has become her obsession.  

And most importantly, she is a former shit-show dater who learned how to stop bending over backwards, become more vulnerable and created the relationship of her life starting at 41!

Here are some things we discuss in today's episode:

  • Dating in 2018
  • Her journey from shit-show dater to figuring it the F out
  • Where relationship failures really stem from.
  • How to be hella confident with yourself, single. 
  • Her perspective on online dating
  • Making decisions out of love versus fear
  • First date ideas that will actually let you get to know the person
  • Why you keep attracting unavailable guys
  • How being true to ourselves is the key to letting love in
  • How my marriage changed because of Harry Potter

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Kira's Website | Instagram | Podcast

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